I recently was blocked by someone I’d been having a conversation with. Initially I’d wondered if it was because I’d revealed a previous twitter incarnation, and thought they may have taken issue with it. But no – it was because I didn’t follow their partner. The three of us had had a civil conversation, but I apparently broke etiquette by not following him, and that makes me something described by an old Anglo-Saxon word, which is censored on British television, even after the watershed.

My initial upset at being blocked turned to incredulity, and then laughter, over such a petty action.

So allow me to clear things up regarding my simple policy for following people, and those who follow me.

I do not expect anybody to follow me.

I follow people because I’m interested in what they say or find it relevant to me; and I hope the people who do follow me do so because they think I have something interesting or relevant to say.

If I have a tweeted conversation with someone, I don’t expect them to follow me, and I may not follow them.

I have had a few people ask me to follow them, to which I usually do – they have usually something to say that interests me, or they may want to talk about something I’ve written – I am amenable to this. Read the rest of this entry »


I’ve been thinking about writing a post for a few weeks, but my head space and suffering from the most horrific virus I’ve encountered put the brakes on the idea. I’m here now and I’m going to talk about my recent battles. I’ve been off work for just shy of seven weeks and I’m not […]

via My breakdown, My struggles, My fears — My Light, My Darkness

Controlling behaviour

Posted: April 2, 2016 in BDSM
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There’s a public service advertisment currently running on British TV, as part of a campaign called “Disrespect Nobody.” It describes various types controlling behaviour which can be described as abusive. they amount to controlling behaviour.

Some might argue that the issues raised don’t apply to the BDSM community, but they are stilL every bit as relevant. The control within the relationship is (or should be) part of an understood and agreed framework between the Dominant and submissive. Read the rest of this entry »

Source: My experiences and reflections on telling (or not telling) fellow mental health professionals that I have Bipolar Disorder

This is a lady who is training to be a mental health clinician, suffers from Bipolar Disorder, and in this article has related her experiences when she shared her issues with her fellow therapists.

It begs the question: If some mental health professionals cannot feel empathy for those colleagues who are also affected, then how can they truly provide a caring service to members of the general public with such issues?


The power of music

Posted: November 14, 2015 in Black Dog

I’m not sure whether it is because I was brought up with music, but I find it can have a profound effect on me. I have a ‘Happy Playlist’ on my iPod to help me when I’m feeling low. Tonight I heard a piece of music that unexpectedly brought a tear to my eye. Read the rest of this entry »

Sympathy, and the Inverse Square law

Posted: November 13, 2015 in Rant

I recently bumped to an old friend and discovered she was recovering from having a brain tumour removed. I didn’t know about until I saw her, and one of our friends, who’d also not seen her in a while asked why she hadn’t put anything on Facebook. Her reply made perfect sense to me.

She didn’t want lots of people giving faux sympathy.

She knew that her condition would attract lots of people sending messages, publicly, saying how sorry they were, etc., yet in reality, only a few would be genuine in their support, offering their time to help her through.  Read the rest of this entry »

Someone sent me a link to a Facebook post. To summarise, the poster had proclaimed that the way to beat depression is not to think negative thoughts.

Wow! What a revelation!

Except it isn’t. That is exactly how you beat depression1.

Simple, don’t you think?

Just like the way to get to the moon is to build a rocket. Or the way to get a gold Olympic medal is to win a race at the Olympic Games. Read the rest of this entry »